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Trying to conceive but relationship isn't the best

Posted July 24, 2014 - 1:16am
I was wondering if anyone out there in Kids in the House land have dealt with a situation like mine. I've been married for close to 3 years now and we are trying to have a child, which is what we both want. But truthfully, there are problems with our relationship and it seems like my husband and I are growing apart. I don't know what to do...we both really want children but I fear bringing them into an already stressed environment. Anyone felt the same way?
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My wife and I went through a period like this and it was definitely hard to come back from. Communication is key in any relationship. My wife and I ended up seeing a marriage counselor and that helped us a lot and we are doing so much better now. John Gray also has some great and really honest videos about it on Kids In The House. This is one of my favorites.


I grew apart from my wife over the last year when I started seeing someone else. I feel really guilty and I know that she knows that something is going on. I am going to be a new daddy in  3 months and I have his it from her. 

Bobby Page

A similar situation happened with my brother and I think the best advice I can give you is to be honest with your wife. You don't want to start a life with a new baby in this way. Being honest with your wife can help you start to heal your marriage (if that's what you both want) and create an even stronger relationship together. I think Tammy Nelson has some great advice and these are two videos you should check out. I wish you all the best man and just encourage you to do what's right. 


I guess it is best to mend your relationship with your husband first.Having a child while your relationship isn't at its best is not a cure-all for your relationship.


So many people feel a child is the glue to make a marriage work. It's simply not true. If you aren't communicating now and having issues, a baby isn't going to help the situation. Babies are a lot of work and time and this can add stress to even the best marriages. Work on improving the communication and deciding how to best make the marriage work and decide if children really are the answer.

Frugal Minded M...

Adding a baby to a marriage even in the best of circumstances adds stress on the relationship so I would definitely work on the marriage and growing together before adding a baby.