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We want to make sure that we are connecting with what your baby is capable of in that developmental stage. We don't want to push a baby and force them and sleep train them.  At the same time we don't want to continue helping a child sleep beyond the point where they don't need that help anymore. New parents are given a lot of support during the early months for how to soothe their baby. But they're not given a lot of instruction for how to gradually back off from that soothing. So one of the things we outline in great detail is how to do that. We call it the "curious stance" and what it looks like is being attuned to what your baby may be able to do tonight that she wasn't able to do the night before. So what this might look like is, say your baby wakes in the middle of the night at a time when they're not used to feeding. What the "curious stance" would look like is that you go into the room and instead and swooping in and picking them up and bouncing them or feeding them right away, you'd start with the very least intrusive thing you can think of, which might just be your presence might be the sound of your voice. Might then move on to a little pat, or a jiggle, or a shush and we call this the "soothing ladder". So you're gonna start at the bottom of the ladder and see how far you need to go. You might put the pacifier back or pick up up your baby in the middle of the ladder. And at the very top of the ladder is feeding your baby. What this soothing hierarchy does is it gives you the ability to find out what you're baby's capable of.

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