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Considering third child

Posted August 7, 2015 - 11:14am

Hi Kids in the House Community!

I currently have two children and am considering a third. My last pregnancy was a tough one so I'm not sure if I can go through that again. Are there any other moms out there who have had two kids and are on the fence as to whether to have a third? Thanks!

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I can't speak for my wife when she was pregnant, we always knew that we wanted a big family since we both grew up with no siblings, but she didn't have any complications with her pregnancies so it's hard to say.  But I say that if you're definitely thinking about it, then why not sit down with your husband to see if that's what you both really want?


This is a decision that my husband and I need to make together but he's not the one who has to carry the baby around for 9 months! haha

Marshall Herff

Third time is the charm! Even tho sounds like the first two times were too...


True!  I thought I was o.k. with my two girls, but when I got pregnant with my third after seven years, it was joy!


I have two teens and am considering adopting a third, younger child. It's such a difficult decision even though I won't be having a preganancy. Best of luck with your decision!!


What kind of factors are going into consideration as you go through the decision making process? Just want to make sure I'm not missing anything if you're in a similar place!


Me too! My kids are grown, but I would love to have a third one. Even adopting one. I really miss having a little one around the house.xx

Frugal Minded M...

I've had difficult pregnancies with all 5.  By that I mean I start contracting every 8 minutes at 32 weeks and really have to watch my activity.  Due to this and knowing I couldn't carry other kids at the time I was 6 months pregnant, I spaced my children at least 2 1/2 years apart.  I didn't debate between 2 and 3, but the concern was 3 to 4 because number 3 was colicky.  However, I decided that every baby is different and although she was a bit difficulty at the start, by 2 she was a true joy.


My deliveries were beyond a nightmare, but only because I have a physical deformality that causes problems during delivery. It seems it's too late for me anyhow, but I would love to adopt a kid or two!


My first pregnancy had complications, but my second was smooth -- yet we still knew we were DONE at two! I think when you are done you know and you feel like your family is complete. When my friends tell me they are unsure, I tell them that means they will have another one. Sure enough, one of my close friends just had baby #4. She says she feels like her family is complete now.


I am a mom of 3.  All of them were less than 2 years apart.  I wanted them to be close in age to hopefully have closer friendships with each other but it was challenging, especially when they were younger!  They are now 8, 6 and 4 and the challenges are just different.  I won't lie, 3 is a handful but I wouldn't have it any other way.  In fact, I considered a 4th but for my own situation feel like too much time has passed and I'm getting too old to do it again.  Pregnancy is so hard!  How old are your kids?

Your Kid's Table

I had two very difficult pregnancies- almost needing to be hosipitilized for the first half. We went for the third and he will be one later this month. It was the best decisoin we ever made. It was challenging, and early on I had second thoughts as I was so sick. He is the hugest blessing to our family.


my brothers have three children and it looks like so much fun. It's like the 3rd completed the family and was such a blessing. Good luck in your decision making.

Mommy Ramblings

Have you come any closer to deciding what you want to do?


Hi,I have only one daughter. But my sister already has 2 daughtaer and is expecting for a third one. Her situation is a bit complicated, but she really wants another one. I hope that her will power will help her a lot in this.