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Posted October 21, 2017 - 8:16am

I am divorced with 2 boysand my significant other has a girl. My boys are 11 and 7, and she is 7. What brought me here is me not understabding certain things such as, my significant other asks me to tell my 11 year old to put a shirt on. .. because hes in front or around his daughter. I dont agree this is neccessary. Boys go around with no shirts all the time... my significant others response.. "it doesnt matter shes not your dauggter%. I dont understand, please shed some light.

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It can be appropriate in some cultures, and in others it can be inappropriate. That isn't really the issue here.The challenge is that you and your partner have a conflict in your approach to parenting that needs to be resolved. You are both right in your own way, but until you have agreement and one approach, this conflict will continue, and will make bringing up your 3 kids consistently very difficult.So you'll need to have an honest discussion about why your partner thinks it is not okay, and why you think it is okay, and work through the compromise position, as obviously at least one of you will need to bend a little.In my culture all three would be quite happy topless or naked at that age, but you have to ask yourself, to make your partner happy maybe it is worthwhile to get them to wear shirts. Or perhaps your partner's approach is because of some worry, and you can allay that fear.So communication - as ever, that's the key.