So as a kid I was bullied quite a bit. I was a foster kid. I was freckled. I was pudgy as a kid. So all of these sorts of things, sort of a recipe for getting picked on. And since then, I’ve dealt with 100s of teens and parents who are dealing with the situation of bullying.
And the frustrating thing, particularly when it’s emotional or verbal bullying, in life as much as we wish we could, we can’t control people. If someone wanted to say that I was fat or freckled or a foster kid, there was not much of anything I could do to prevent them from saying that or thinking that about me.
So then what does a parent do? Or if you’re a caring adult, how do you help a kid who’s going through something like this? Well the key here is to teach your child resiliency. Meaning, that if someone says something about you that you know is not true, that does not match who you genuinely are, you don’t have to believe it, buy into it, allow it to cripple your life.
And the truth is all of us do have things about us that are awkward. And all of us have things about us that are awesome. I was freckly as a kid. I still am. Get a good look at me here.
Who cares? Who cares if you’re freckly? Who cares if you’re different? Who cares if you’re this and that? And all of us have things about us that are great. So the key is to teach your kids resiliency meaning that such and such can say whatever they want about you but you genuinely know who you are and you genuinely know who you’re not.