So as a parent of a teen, no doubt something that keeps you up at night is what on earth is my teen doing when they’re out there by themselves, when they’re with their friends, when they claim they’re here or there or at a party or wherever?
Now the challenge is that you have to understand. Every battle is won before it is fought. Meaning, that if you expect your kid to say no to drugs or sex or something that could mess up their future and their life, it is important that you as a parent arm them with a response technique prior to them being in that situation.
So you could very practically rehearse – and you could make a game of this and actually have some fun with it – you could rehearse with your kids in the comfort and safety of your home. Hey, I’m happy that you’re going to a party with your friends, this and that. Let’s be honest. Let’s be frank with each other.
There’s probably going to be some kids there doing some stuff you’re not going to want to do. Let’s work through how to handle this in advance. And just give them literally the thing to say. Cause sometimes it’s not that the thing wants to use. They don’t know what to say. They shut down. Oh, fine.
So you could literally just practice this with your kid. Just tell them to use this phrase, no man, I’m good. That’s it. No man, I’m good. And then just simply walk away.
So in your home, you could tempt them. Say, you want to try this. No, man, I’m good. Are you sure man? What’s the big deal? No man, I’m good.
So just pressure them. Rehearse this in the situation so that when they inevitably find themselves in a situation where someone’s asking them to do something stupid, they have a response technique. They have something to go back to to say, no man, I’m good. Turn and walk away.