How are boy bullies different from girl bullies?

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How are boy bullies different from girl bullies?

Our old model used to say that boys do much more physical bullying. They're more aggressive so they push each other, they shove each other, they take each other down on the sports field. They knock books out of each others' arms when they're walking down the hallway. And girls used to be known as to be doing teasing, all that verbal stuff with words and exclusion. However, in the last few years I have data collected from thousands of kids that say that girls are coming up on the physical bullying realm and doing much more physical stuff to each other, especially on the sports field. And boys are doing more verbal bullying and exclusion themselves. So here's the key point as a parent: don't lock yourself into this stereotype that girls do one kind and boys do another, because you'll miss stuff that is going on that you need to know.

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Joel Haber, PhD

Psychologist, Bullying & Parenting Expert, Author

Dr. Joel Haber is a Clinical Psychologist and internationally recognized bully prevention and parenting expert. He was selected as a webinar leader and a speaker for the Obama Administration Federal Partners in Bullying Prevention initiative.  He was also an invited participant to the Second Federal Partners in Bullying Prevention Summit in 2011. His recent book, Bullyproof Your Child for Life: Protect Your Child from Teasing, Taunting and Bullying for Good set the bullying standard for schools, camps, sports, organizations and families dealing with bully prevention and intervention. He recently published The Resilience Formula: A Guide to Proactive, Not Reactive Parenting.  He is a consultant and expert to the American Camp Association, and to LG Electronics as a member of (, providing cyberbullying and mobile harassment expertise to parents and families. He is an advisor to Cartoon Network’s anti-bully campaign: Stop Bullying: Speak Up.  He is an expert for No Snap Judgments: The Addams Family Broadway Show- National Campaign to promote acceptance and tolerance amongst our youth. He is also co-founder of Tool Kits for Kids (, recipient of five national parenting awards for helping parents and kids develop the tools and emotional life skills to overcome worry, build confidence and develop resilience. He has written and published extensively, speaking each year to thousands of parents and educators to help make children’s lives, safer and better. 

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