Protecting your child against cyberbullies

Joel Haber, PhD Psychologist & Bullying Expert, shares advice for parents on the best methods for preventing your child from being a victim of cyberbullying
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Protecting your child against cyberbullies

Bullying is a problem that now includes cyber bullying. 6 out of 10 kids who bully on the playground, also cyber bully. Then there is a group that is just cyber bullying. We used to think that the group of kids who cyber bully didn't have skills, would hide behind their computer, but would have technical skills, who were low on the totem pole. They would go back to the kids who bullied them. It's not so simple. It's still about social power, at times. It is also about getting attention. It's about a lot of different variables, so we can't lock in on one possible concept about power that we used to with regular bullying. The problem is that kids who cyber bully, have technology that makes us vulnerable. When kids do things that are mean or hurtful, they can touch a button and that message goes out into cyberspace. Kids don't have the brain understanding, at this level, to understand the consequences of their actions. Cyber bullying can be very hard because the legal issues surrounding it are not yet fully formed within the states. Understand this, if is on the internet, you can't really prove that your child didn't do it. Even if it was in a moment of frustration. We have to teach our kids about how to use the internet. My rules for my kids is, don't say anything on the internet that you wouldn't say to your grandmother with a smile. In that way, we reduce the risk. I also believe that having monitoring software on computers, so you understand what they are doing. Technology is a privilege, not a right. If they are not doing it right, you don't have to allow them access until they can show you they can do it right.

Joel Haber, PhD Psychologist & Bullying Expert, shares advice for parents on the best methods for preventing your child from being a victim of cyberbullying


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Joel Haber, PhD

Psychologist, Bullying & Parenting Expert, Author

Dr. Joel Haber is a Clinical Psychologist and internationally recognized bully prevention and parenting expert. He was selected as a webinar leader and a speaker for the Obama Administration Federal Partners in Bullying Prevention initiative.  He was also an invited participant to the Second Federal Partners in Bullying Prevention Summit in 2011. His recent book, Bullyproof Your Child for Life: Protect Your Child from Teasing, Taunting and Bullying for Good set the bullying standard for schools, camps, sports, organizations and families dealing with bully prevention and intervention. He recently published The Resilience Formula: A Guide to Proactive, Not Reactive Parenting.  He is a consultant and expert to the American Camp Association, and to LG Electronics as a member of (, providing cyberbullying and mobile harassment expertise to parents and families. He is an advisor to Cartoon Network’s anti-bully campaign: Stop Bullying: Speak Up.  He is an expert for No Snap Judgments: The Addams Family Broadway Show- National Campaign to promote acceptance and tolerance amongst our youth. He is also co-founder of Tool Kits for Kids (, recipient of five national parenting awards for helping parents and kids develop the tools and emotional life skills to overcome worry, build confidence and develop resilience. He has written and published extensively, speaking each year to thousands of parents and educators to help make children’s lives, safer and better. 

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