How to deal with the bully's parents

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How to deal with the bully's parents

That often happens where the parents will not accept the fact that their child is a bully. In our work, we do a lot of mediating with parents and schools because there are parents of course that wanted to talk to the schools and let them know what's going on but they're very emotional and rightly so, their child has been wounded because for many kids going to school is a daily nightmare. There is this one particular situation where the school had just installed some very sophisticated cameras and they caught on camera two boys pummeling one boy, just really letting him have it. So, the school administrator called the two parents and ask me to be present as well. One set of parents, very remorseful. They were amazing, very apologetic but the second set of parents said, "That's not my son." We're looking at the video. "That's not my son." I said, "Let's just run it one more time." No, they were adamant. "That's not my son." I said. "Well, if that's the case, we better call the police and children say because we have a child in the school that doesn't belong to anyone." So, when we talk about silence and denial among children, they have the role models as well many times. And in the end, it was resolved and yes, it was definitely their son but their shame and blame are attached to it as well. So often, parents had a very hard time with it. It's really in parents best interest to learn how to recognize the signs of bullying and how to help their child safely.

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Alexandra Penn

Champions Against Bullying

Alexandra Penn, founder of Champions Against Bullying and author of the award winning Disney Parent-to-Parent, Ministry of Education recommended CD-ROM, The No-Nonsense Guide To Kids’ Bullying Solutions, is a leading expert on School Bullying/Youth Violence. Her workshops for kids, parents and educators are loaded with Preventive Strategies, Intervention Techniques and Immediate Practical solutions. Alexandra is an Internationally Certified Trainer in Youth Violence Prevention, a Crisis Intervention Specialist, a Parent Coach, an accomplished writer and editor, a dynamic workshop leader, keynote speaker, mother of two and founding member of the Coalition for Bullying Awareness and Prevention in Canada. A former counselor in Special Ed at the Board of Education, Alexandra's breakthrough with an autistic child initiated a video used as a teaching tool at the world-renowned Clarke Institute of Psychiatry.

Alexandra maintains, “children’s mental health is directly linked to their academic success and removing the obstacles that impede learning, such as fear, are crucial. Today’s children are tomorrow’s leaders – our leaders. It’s up to all of us to decide how we want them to evolve. Kids need our help. They can’t fix it themselves. Let’s make it happen!”

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