What to look for in a daycare

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What to look for in a daycare

The daycare question is a huge question for many of today's parents. We're in a place where we have to share the responsibility of raising children in our society. How best do we do this? The thing to keep in mind is that the context for raising children is the child's attachment to those who are caring for them. This provides us with the modus operenda, the guideline. What we want to look for in a daycare is someone that our child attaches to readily, they are open to that attachment. They move to the adult in charge, rather than the other children. What we want to look for in daycare is somebody who will preserve the attachment with us because that's very important. We want to be able to pass the attachment baton on to them. We want to be able to act as if we are an attachment relay team. The child moves from one attachment to another. We know they are speaking about us in a positive way. They keep us in mind with the child, so the child isn't experiencing separation. In today's world, because of the loss of extended family, where children are already attached to those who were going to be taking care of them and those people were attached to us as well; the grandparents, the uncles and aunts. Many of us do not have those natural caregivers in the child's life. What we do now, when we give birth to a child, many of us have to create the village of attachment where the child is going to be raised. Make sure that child is introduced to the person who is going to take care of them.
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Gordon Neufeld, PhD

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Dr. Gordon Neufeld is a Vancouver-based developmental psychologist with over 40 years of experience with children and youth and those responsible for them. A foremost authority on child development, Dr. Neufeld is an international speaker, a bestselling author, Hold On to Your Kids and a leading interpreter of the developmental paradigm. Dr. Neufeld has a widespread reputation for making sense of complex problems and for opening doors for change. While formerly involved in university teaching and private practice, he now devotes his time to teaching and training others, including educators and helping professionals. His Neufeld Institute is now a worldwide organization devoted to applying developmental science to the task of raising children. Dr. Neufeld appears regularly on radio and television. He is a father of five and a grandfather of three.

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