Birth mom relationship

Adoption Expert Guylaine Hubbard-Brosmer, PhD, shares advice for parents in an open adoption on what the relationship with the child's birth mother is like and how to have a good relationship with her
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Our relationship with our kids' birth mom has evolved. It's a relationship now that has lasted for over 20 years. So of course, it's going to change over time. And we can look back and even though we maintained contact and visits with her as the kids were growing up, basically each time we'd see her, we'd feel closer to her and more grateful for who she is and for this incredible act of love that she did by placing these two kids and helping us create our family. We're grateful for her but she's also grateful for us, and her and her mom have often times thanked us for doing such a great with the kids, which is reassuring because a lot of times as parents we don't feel like we did such a great job with the kids. But it's an amazing relationship that's a close member of the family, but it's a very different relationship to put into words. There's aspects of it that are like a close friendship or like a best friend. There's aspects of it that are almost like similar to the relationship I have with my sister. And it does evolve as we get older because now we're more equals than we were at the time when she first placed the babies for adoption.

Adoption Expert Guylaine Hubbard-Brosmer, PhD, shares advice for parents in an open adoption on what the relationship with the child's birth mother is like and how to have a good relationship with her

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Guylaine Hubbard-Brosmer, PhD

Adoption Expert

Guylaine has both personal and professional experience with open adoption, which gives her a very unique perspective on the topic. She and her husband are the parents of two children (young adults), whom they adopted as infants and have maintained an open adoption with their birthmother for over 20 years. Her children have the same birthmother, which is more common that one would think! This past year added to her realm of adoption experience, when her daughter gave birth to, and placed a baby for adoption. 

Guylaine was born and raised in California, and is the youngest of four siblings. She has always been the type of person to get involved and volunteer, from being a class officer in middle school and high school to serving on Boards of Directors for her children’s schools, her church, Resolve (an infertility and adoption educational organization) and other community organizations. When she is not working at her position as Southern California Branch Co-Director/Home Study Supervisor/Adoption Coordinator at the Independent Adoption Center (IAC) she enjoys spending time with friends and family, traveling, camping, playing golf,and dancing.

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