Birth mother fears

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Birth mother fears

I've never felt threatened by having the birth mom's presence in our lives with the open adoption. I think part of that is because she was so secure in her decision and that reassured me that her role was not as parent; her role was simply as the birth mom. I did in the beginning feel a little bit possessive after she had delivered my daughter and she and the baby were still in the hospital. She wanted to give her a name for the original birth certificate. And that, I will admit, did freak me out, unnecessarily but I didn't know it was unnecessary at the time. And one thing I had a hard time with, even though we had visits and everything in the very beginning is I had a hard time with the actual act of handing her the baby because there was something inside of me that felt like I was giving the baby back to her if I handed her the baby, even though I was completely comfortable with her holding and interacting with her. It was just that act which, of course, I realized in hindsight that she didn't pose any threat and there was no reason for that. So that's something that now, when I'm working with adoptive parents at the agency that we tell them to be sure to allow the birth mom time alone with the baby and interaction with the baby from th every beginning.

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Guylaine Hubbard-Brosmer, PhD

Adoption Expert

Guylaine has both personal and professional experience with open adoption, which gives her a very unique perspective on the topic. She and her husband are the parents of two children (young adults), whom they adopted as infants and have maintained an open adoption with their birthmother for over 20 years. Her children have the same birthmother, which is more common that one would think! This past year added to her realm of adoption experience, when her daughter gave birth to, and placed a baby for adoption. 

Guylaine was born and raised in California, and is the youngest of four siblings. She has always been the type of person to get involved and volunteer, from being a class officer in middle school and high school to serving on Boards of Directors for her children’s schools, her church, Resolve (an infertility and adoption educational organization) and other community organizations. When she is not working at her position as Southern California Branch Co-Director/Home Study Supervisor/Adoption Coordinator at the Independent Adoption Center (IAC) she enjoys spending time with friends and family, traveling, camping, playing golf,and dancing.

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