Open adoption parameters

Adoption Expert Guylaine Hubbard-Brosmer, PhD, shares advice from her experience on the benefits of maintaining a close relationship with your adopted child's birth mother
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Open adoption parameters

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When my husband and I decided to adopt and we wanted an open adoption, we knew we were going to have ongoing contact with the birth parents. Our match period was pretty short and we didn't spend much time talking about it before our daughter was born. After our daughter was born, we came together to discuss what our expectations were in terms of keeping in touch through pictures and phone calls, letters, and visits. We actually started having visits. Our daughter was about ten weeks old when we had our first visit. In that first year, we probably saw her about four times. The fourth time was when our son was being born because we were all back at the hospital together for his birth. We continued that frequency until the birth mom moved out of the area. Looking back, we do have some regrets in terms of not maintaining that frequency over the years. There were periods of time where we weren't in as frequent with communications with each other at all. Fortunately, we came back together and we do try and see each other every year or two. We really -- My entire family and her entire family is well, cherish those visits.

Adoption Expert Guylaine Hubbard-Brosmer, PhD, shares advice from her experience on the benefits of maintaining a close relationship with your adopted child's birth mother

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Guylaine Hubbard-Brosmer, PhD

Adoption Expert

Guylaine has both personal and professional experience with open adoption, which gives her a very unique perspective on the topic. She and her husband are the parents of two children (young adults), whom they adopted as infants and have maintained an open adoption with their birthmother for over 20 years. Her children have the same birthmother, which is more common that one would think! This past year added to her realm of adoption experience, when her daughter gave birth to, and placed a baby for adoption. 

Guylaine was born and raised in California, and is the youngest of four siblings. She has always been the type of person to get involved and volunteer, from being a class officer in middle school and high school to serving on Boards of Directors for her children’s schools, her church, Resolve (an infertility and adoption educational organization) and other community organizations. When she is not working at her position as Southern California Branch Co-Director/Home Study Supervisor/Adoption Coordinator at the Independent Adoption Center (IAC) she enjoys spending time with friends and family, traveling, camping, playing golf,and dancing.

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