How to make educators aware of adoption

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How to make educators aware of adoption

There are specific issues that an adopted child will experience or may go through that educators need to be aware of. Nancy Verrier wrote the book The Primal Wound because adoption actually, that separation, that first rejection actually does create an emotional wound. And it can also create neurological gaps. So educators, if they are viewing a child´s behavior through the lends of a biological neurotypical child, they may be very judgmental about that child´s behavior rather than seeing that behavior as there is something underneath that, there are some neurological issues, there are some emotional issues. It is only in the last 20 years that we have begun to understand the effect that trauma has on the brain and so if we can teach educators, if we can inform them of the effects that trauma has on the brain, then they can begin to see these are not bad kids. They are not trying to be bad. They are not trying to be difficult. There is a neurological need that is driving that behavior. And if we can address that underlying neurological need and emotional need, then these kids will be much more successful in school.

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Kathy Gordon is the single adoptive mother of a very spirited nine year-old boy, but was not prepared for the challenges of parenting a child whose brain was developed under stress. When her son was three, Kathy had the good fortune of taking parenting classes with Ruth Beaglehole, founding Director of the Center for Nonviolent Education and Parenting, (, and she realized this powerful compassionate method of working with children was something she wanted to teach. She has been a teacher, director and coach most of her adult life. Kathy was certified as a Parent Educator through the Center for Nonviolent Education and Parenting in May of 2008, and will now continue her training by becoming a Certified Hand-in-Hand Parenting Parent Educator. Kathy works with families individually, teaches parenting classes and facilitates trainings for educators and schools communities. Her practice is called Unconditional Connection because we all long for connection, and we long to be unconditionally loved. We live in a society in which we are continually judged by our behavior. Kathy offers research-based information and tools to help people look underneath and beyond the behavior, so that we may be more unconditionally connected thus creating a world of cooperation and peace. 

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