Post-divorce dating advice

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Post-divorce dating advice

Dating can be one of those semi-tricky areas. I'll tell you one study that is of interest, which is one poor prognostic indicator of how children did post divorce, is when a parent remarried within the first year after the divorce. There is some indication that waiting awhile is helpful for them. When you start dating, I recommend dating on the days that you don't have your children. If they are at mom's house or dad's house, that's the time for you to date. We don't want to introduce our children to dates because we don't want them to get attached to another figure in their life that may not be there for them. When parents feel pretty certain that this is the person that they want to be with, we then can recommend some mild introductions. We ask parents, no demonstrations of affection. Just introduce them to the child and help the child get used to be with that particular person. It is also important to note that the child may not feel that they are being loyal to the other parent. They may not like that person, they may go home and report to the other parent, so it's important to let the other parent know when you are going to be introducing them to that child. You'd like the cooperation with that. That's the start of it.

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Dr. Alan Yellin is a licensed psychologist as well as licensed marriage and family therapist.  He has been in practice for over 30 years working with children, adolescents and adults. Dr. Yellin did his post-doctoral fellowship at Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles. In his practice, he sees children with learning problems, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, fears and social skills issues. Additionally, he has a sub-specialty in working with children from divorced families as well as helping parents deal more effectively with their divorce. Dr. Yellin’s practice also includes working with adolescents and adults with depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive issues as well as issues around life passages. Dr. Yellin believes that therapy works best when the client and therapist have a collaborative relationship as they explore thoughts and feelings and work towards solutions, and uses a combination of scientific data along with humor to help people achieve change. He is in a long-term happy marriage and has two grown children.

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