Importance of individuating triplets

Julie Gillespie, Author & Triplet Mom, shares advice shares advice for parents of triplets on the importance encouraging individuation and some possible ways for parents to do so
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Importance of individuating triplets

It is important to expect that your 3 kids are going to have very different personalities, just like 3 siblings would. Unless they're identical, which only happens in like 1 in 700,000 triplets pregnancies. The way to encourage individuation is to provide them with different activities. Now this would be a nightmare, if say, one of them went to baseball practice, and one of them went to soccer and one of them went to gymnastics all in the same day. One of the moms found a really great sport, the swim team. She had them all go to swim practice together, but it came time to compete, they had different events. They wouldn't all compete doing the butterfly, they all had different races. And they would cheer each other on and yet not compete; and they had the chance to develop those individual talents. In school, a way to do that is to separate them. But you may not always be able to do that if it's a small school or a private school. So you do the best you can. Just keep in mind that people are always going to ask if they're alike. And your response is, "Why would they be? They're all different."

Julie Gillespie, Author & Triplet Mom, shares advice shares advice for parents of triplets on the importance encouraging individuation and some possible ways for parents to do so


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Julie Gillespie, DPT, a mother of multiples, physical therapist, teacher and writer, is a graduate of Mt. St. Mary's College and the University of Southern California.    A leader in pelvic floor therapy for over 30 years, she now works at Gillespie Physical Therapy in Los Angeles. Find out more at Her customized treatment plans can relieve a variety of urinary, bowel and sexual conditions including dyspareunia, coccydynia, testiculitis, vulvodynia, and vaginismus. With a specialty in identifying and treating pelvic floor disorders, Julie has worked with hundreds of patients throughout the Los Angeles area to achieve optimal core fitness. Overall wellness is Julie’s goal for all patients, and Julie believes in an integrated approach to physical therapy. She supports a combination of therapeutic studio and pool exercises, manual trigger point release therapy, biofeedback, dilator therapy, postural stabilization, meditation, yoga, Pilates and behavioral retraining, all with the goal of relieving pain and improving each patient’s emotional, physical and sexual wellbeing.  Julie works with women whose inner core has been detrimentally affected by the stages of menstruation, maternity, postpartum and menopause. She also treats women who have been subject to sexual trauma or assault, to help them regain sensitivity, strength and comfort. For women or men in rehabilitation and recovery from pelvic floor injuries or surgeries, Julie helps strengthen the inner core muscles that have been compromised. Julie also works with athletes, developing treatment plans to manage the impact of up-training, down-training, and injury. She has helped countless elite athletes and cyclists with pelvic floor therapy for injury and repetitive use.  Julie earned her Masters and Doctorate in Biokinesiology and Physical Therapy from the University of Southern California, and her Physical Therapy degree from Mount Saint Mary’s College. Julie has owned and/or managed several ob/gyn, continence and women’s healthcare groups in California, including the Women’s Health Program at USC.   Julie has taught Women’s Health in the physical therapy programs at Mt. St. Mary’s College, Northridge and Loma Linda. In 2019, Julie was invited to Shenzhen, China to lecture on pelvic floor conditions and sexual dysfunctions. She has been recognized for her pelvic floor research with an award  from the American Physical Therapy Association. On a personal note, Julie is the mother of triplets and two singletons, and enjoys hiking, running, skiing and quilting. She is the author of Magical Multiple Moments.

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