One-on-one time when you have multiples

Julie Gillespie, Author & Triplet Mom, explains the importance of spending individual time with your children even when you have three at once, and shares advice ways to do so
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One-on-one time when you have multiples

It's important to spend individual time with your children, even though you have three at once. The love you give them is internalized. It's like building a house. If they don't get that love early one, there will be a crack in that foundation and it won't stand right. It won't be erect. It won't be as stable in the long run. I know it's difficult, but try and make time for each child. We do it when relatives come to visit. They stay for a week. We take one child at a time and they have a day with mom and grandma, make fun with it. It's really important. Margaret Mahler, is a psychiatrist, who has a theory about individuation. She believes that you love, the time and energy that you spend tuning into them, comes back to. It's really important to make that a priority.

Julie Gillespie, Author & Triplet Mom, explains the importance of spending individual time with your children even when you have three at once, and shares advice ways to do so


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Julie Gillespie

Author & Triplet Mom

Julie Gillespie, DPT, a mother of multiples, physical therapist, teacher and writer, is a graduate of Mt. St. Mary's College and the University of Southern California.    A leader in pelvic floor therapy for over 30 years, she now works at Gillespie Physical Therapy in Los Angeles. Find out more at Her customized treatment plans can relieve a variety of urinary, bowel and sexual conditions including dyspareunia, coccydynia, testiculitis, vulvodynia, and vaginismus. With a specialty in identifying and treating pelvic floor disorders, Julie has worked with hundreds of patients throughout the Los Angeles area to achieve optimal core fitness. Overall wellness is Julie’s goal for all patients, and Julie believes in an integrated approach to physical therapy. She supports a combination of therapeutic studio and pool exercises, manual trigger point release therapy, biofeedback, dilator therapy, postural stabilization, meditation, yoga, Pilates and behavioral retraining, all with the goal of relieving pain and improving each patient’s emotional, physical and sexual wellbeing.  Julie works with women whose inner core has been detrimentally affected by the stages of menstruation, maternity, postpartum and menopause. She also treats women who have been subject to sexual trauma or assault, to help them regain sensitivity, strength and comfort. For women or men in rehabilitation and recovery from pelvic floor injuries or surgeries, Julie helps strengthen the inner core muscles that have been compromised. Julie also works with athletes, developing treatment plans to manage the impact of up-training, down-training, and injury. She has helped countless elite athletes and cyclists with pelvic floor therapy for injury and repetitive use.  Julie earned her Masters and Doctorate in Biokinesiology and Physical Therapy from the University of Southern California, and her Physical Therapy degree from Mount Saint Mary’s College. Julie has owned and/or managed several ob/gyn, continence and women’s healthcare groups in California, including the Women’s Health Program at USC.   Julie has taught Women’s Health in the physical therapy programs at Mt. St. Mary’s College, Northridge and Loma Linda. In 2019, Julie was invited to Shenzhen, China to lecture on pelvic floor conditions and sexual dysfunctions. She has been recognized for her pelvic floor research with an award  from the American Physical Therapy Association. On a personal note, Julie is the mother of triplets and two singletons, and enjoys hiking, running, skiing and quilting. She is the author of Magical Multiple Moments.

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