When the wounds of your childhood affect your parenting

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When the wounds of your childhood affect your parenting

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In a perfect world, we would have it all together before we have children but often it isn't until we have children. And they start pushing our buttons that we realize that we have some work to do on ourselves. Children are like living with your guru, they highlight for you any area, where you need to do some work. It is the hardest thing we do, working through our old issues. It means that we have to sit with those painful feelings, not take action, not go get a pin of ice cream, not go on on one of our screams, not yell on someone. But sit with those feelings of maybe hurt or fear, maybe from years ago. And it's such hard work that most of us avoided, but when we notice that we are being triggered in our interactions with our child over and over again. That's a red flag that we have some work to do. And the only thing to do is to go back and do that work and work through this feelingss. So, it's hard work, but what better motivation than our love for our child?

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Laura Markham, PhD

Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Laura Markham is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. She earned her PhD in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and has worked as a parenting coach with countless parents across the English-speaking world, both in person and via phone. You can find Dr. Laura online at AhaParenting.com, the website of Aha! Moments for parents of kids from birth through the teen years, where you can sign up for her free daily inspiration email.  Dr. Laura lives in New York with her husband and her kids, who are now 17 and 21.

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