The philosophy of non-violent parenting

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The philosophy of non-violent parenting

The philosophy of non-violent parenting, comes from the teachings of non-violence as taught by Gandhi and Martin Luther King. They said that anything that hurts the heart, the mind, the body, the spirit; is an act of violence. In that context, even self-criticism is an act of violence. How this can help us, as parents, is that we commit to staying unconditionally connected. To being empathetic and compassionate with our children; to see their behavior as a communication and a strategy to get a core, human need met. If that strategy is not working, we guide them. We help them find another strategy that will meet their needs. Ultimately, this connection, this non-violent parenting, is the atmosphere that we need for optimal brain development; as well as, creating cooperation and peace in our homes. When we model compassion and empathy, we create in our children's brain, the capacity for empathy and compassion.

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Kathy Gordon is the single adoptive mother of a very spirited nine year-old boy, but was not prepared for the challenges of parenting a child whose brain was developed under stress. When her son was three, Kathy had the good fortune of taking parenting classes with Ruth Beaglehole, founding Director of the Center for Nonviolent Education and Parenting, (, and she realized this powerful compassionate method of working with children was something she wanted to teach. She has been a teacher, director and coach most of her adult life. Kathy was certified as a Parent Educator through the Center for Nonviolent Education and Parenting in May of 2008, and will now continue her training by becoming a Certified Hand-in-Hand Parenting Parent Educator. Kathy works with families individually, teaches parenting classes and facilitates trainings for educators and schools communities. Her practice is called Unconditional Connection because we all long for connection, and we long to be unconditionally loved. We live in a society in which we are continually judged by our behavior. Kathy offers research-based information and tools to help people look underneath and beyond the behavior, so that we may be more unconditionally connected thus creating a world of cooperation and peace. 

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