Sex life after giving birth

Ana Paula Markel, Doula, explains how a couple's sex life changes after having a baby and how it can even improve to better than it was before
How a Women's Sex Life Changes After Giving Birth
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Sex life after giving birth

It is a common myth in our culture that if the partner of the birthing mom watches the baby coming out, the partner will not be interested in the vagina as a sexual object and will always look at the vagina and see the baby emerging from it. That is not true at all. Vaginas don't break after childbirth. They are designed to give birth. They can accommodate that baby very gently and the go back where it belongs after baby. Sex after birth changes for the better. You will go through a period where you will not have as much sex because you are going to be tired. What often happens is during the process of labor, the woman has discovered a lot about her power and her voice, and feels so confident in her own body that will translate to a positive message in her sexual life. Also, if she had good nutrition during the child birth, which normally happens -- women learn how to eat when they are pregnant, and they maintain that after delivery. Their muscle tone will improve. Their skin tone will improve. If they do exercises to strengthen the perineal muscles, not only will the vagina not going to be defective after childbirth, but it will be better.

Ana Paula Markel, Doula, explains how a couple's sex life changes after having a baby and how it can even improve to better than it was before


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Ana Paula Markel is the mother of four children. Having experienced two cesarean births, a medicated vaginal birth and a natural birth (in that order,) Ana Paula discovered a passionate interest in the childbirth process. Her goal is to assist mothers and families to explore the many options available in childbirth and to take responsibility for their choices.

Ana Paula has been teaching a very fun and active childbirth preparation workshop in Los Angeles for the past nine years and has supported hundreds of families during pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum. Ana is also a doula trainer for DONA International and has been mentoring new doulas for the past six years. Ana Paula is honored to serve as Director of International Development for DONA International and to be on the advisory board for PAM (Pregnancy Awareness month.) In 2008 Ana founded BINI Birth, a center in Los Angeles dedicated to the childbirth education field, doula training and green pregnancy retail. BINI offers a variety of classes for pregnant couples and new parents. BINI offers yoga, Hypnobirthing, breastfeeding classes and support groups for new mothers and Ana’s very popular workshops. BINI Birth is also the premiere doula referral service in Los Angeles. Ana Paula is passionate about connecting families of all backgrounds with their ideal birth support.

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