KidsInTheHouse the Ultimate Parenting Resource
Kids in the House Tour
Rich Gordon's picture
Principal Mediator

A Fair Way Mediation Center offers a relaxed, compassionate atmosphere in an informal setting that encourages a calm and objective approach.  This is a safe space that avoids the stress and embarrassment that courtroom procedures can inject into any divorce or separation.  All couples are welcome, whether traditional or same sex families. An experienced Mediator, Mr.  Gordon has worked in all facets of alternate dispute resolution (ADR), with both individuals and organisations.  He brings a friendly approach that is conducive to cooperation.

By the time struggling couples decide to hire a divorce mediator, one or both of the spouses have decided that the marriage has deteriorated so much, it is beyond saving and therefore should end. Spouses often agree on using divorce mediation instead of expensive and lengthy litigation when they believe they can handle all of the issues relating to divorce, such as separation of assets and debt, child custody and visitation arrangements, and spousal and child support, and find common ground with few arguments.
When facing the difficult decision to divorce, many couples consider either litigation (each spouse uses their own attorney), or mediation (both spouses work with one neutral divorce mediator to reach an agreement) and usually believe these two options are exclusive of each other. While mediation tends to encourage cooperation and communication between spouses, an experienced mediator will never advise separating partners against seeking legal advice at any time during the divorce proceedings.
In California there are three ways to end a marriage. 1. Nullity or Annulment 2. Legal Separation, or 3. Divorce A. Nullity takes the position the marriage never took place. There are certain conditions which a party may use to end the marriage. Among them are:
Rarely do couples enter into a marriage with thoughts of its failure and divorce. Most couples share their assets and debts in accordance with California's Community Property laws.
Couples who decide to end their marriage have a few options to consider when it comes to handling the divorce process. For example, they can decide to do it themselves; hire their own attorneys, or hire a mediator who will work with both spouses together. Since litigation can be very expensive and a Do-It-Yourself divorce can lead to many headaches and mistakes, many couples are now opting for divorce mediation. However, it’s easy to wonder whose side the mediator is on.
Marriage can have its ups and downs and with divorce rates of about 40% (higher for second marriages, and even higher for thirds), it’s easy to understand why so many couples consider divorce when their relationship is on the rocks. Infidelity, financial problems, children, abuse, and substance or gambling addiction are some of the most commons reasons why people divorce, as they feel betrayed, hurt, or unloved.
California law considers spousal support a temporary situation, not a permanent one. This means that California judges expect the spouse receiving spousal support to eventually become self-sustaining and financially independent. Spousal support can last up to half of the marriage duration, so if the marriage lasted 10 years, the spouse receiving the support will usually see that support end after five years at the most.
Holidays can be a lot of fun but they can also be very stressful, and for split families, holidays can be even more challenging. That’s why California family law requires divorced parents to create a holiday schedule with specific details for each holiday. Parents can reduce their stress levels, enjoy quality time and make lifelong memories with their children by creating a holiday schedule that works for both parents and their children.
Many reasons can affect a parent's decision to move away from their current locale: Promising career opportunities; better emotional or financial support networks (e.g. closer to family and friends), or remarriage. When a primary physical custodial parent (one who has 50% or more of the child sharing time) decides to move away, whether it's one hour distant, on the opposite side of the country, or even overseas, the current custodial arrangement will be disrupted.
Military dad leaving
Military divorces can be quite complex since they not only need to follow the civil code, but also abide by many federal laws and military regulations. Besides child custody, child support, spousal support and property asset division, military pensions and benefits also need to be addressed. The first step to a military divorce procedure is for a state court to obtain jurisdiction over the case, especially if the service member is deployed out of state or out of the country at the time of separation.


Subscribe to RSS - Rich Gordon's blog