How to answer without "because I said so"

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How to answer without "because I said so"

If a child is asking why they have to do something and the parent is inclined to say, “Because I said so,” it’s not the best answer that you can give a child. That is back in the day when children were ‘seen and not heard’ and I think children, they are naturally inquisitive, so if you can give them a child-friendly answer, then you will build on their skills of logic and rationale. If it’s too complicated for the child, you can give them answers like, “Well, this is a policy in our house and this is how we do things.” And that’s fair. But you do want to allow the child to be able to inquire. You don’t want to act like you’re, you know, the authoritarian. And you want to free up the communication between parent and child.

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Lisa Gonsalves, MA

Behavior Therapist

In her career in youth development, Lisa Gonsalves, MA, has served youth populations across the globe over the past 25 years. Her professional experience includes creating, developing, and administering a variety of programs, development systems, and methods for young people as coordinator, counselor, and instructor for ages four through 24.  The various youth populations she has served include school age children with behavioral or mental heath diagnoses, urban and rural at-risk adolescents, foreign students, gay youth, socio-economically underprivileged, and middle class youth. She has a master’s degree in Social Policy for Youth Services.

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