Kindergarten and focusing
My daughter is in Kinder this year and having a difficult time. This is her second year in school, she did a pre-k and now kindergarten. She has also been in day care since a young age. so she has been socialized most of her life. Her teacher this year does a color behavior chart, and a lot of times my daughter comes home on red. After asking her why I learn it is because she "did not listen", but that is about the best answer I get out of her. Tonight we had our first parent teacher conference and I have finally been told what is going on. She has a difficult time with the other children in the class, she is touching the other kids, such as hitting, and kicking. The teacher even mentioned that she has become the scapegoat for the other children.
I also learned that she has a difficult time joining the group she likes to do her work in the back of the room, somewhere without others. When she does this she can do the work and works fine by herself, but put her in the group and she cannot focus. Which leads to the behaviors. The teacher also mentioned that she does things impulsively. The example I was given was she was playing with another child and just started throwing cards at her.
I have always had trouble with my daughter listening, its just never been something she was good at. I have tried many different things. We have a routine that we stick too, I go over rules and expectations with her everyday before she leaves for school. I have taken the phones and electronics away completely (minus some TV on the weekends), taken toys away, bought toys and surprises when she does well. We talk about her day what she did and what happened. We talk about making good choices and what that means. But I am at a loss, so I am reaching out in hopes that somebody may have more ideas.
How do you get a 5 year old to focus and how can you develop the idea of making good choices?
Thank you for reading