Coping with IVF and infertility

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Coping with IVF and infertility

My advice about how to deal with IVF and fertility struggles is to always understand that you’re not going to be doing this for the rest of your life. That no matter what the outcome, it will end. And I think that is one of the biggest challenges of going through this process, the process of trying to have a baby is that: a. you don’t know the end of the story, is this even going to work? So it requires tremendous leap of faith every day to throw yourself in, body and soul, sticking shots in yourself and timing things and you’re so consumed by it and to understand that this is just what you’re doing for right now, it’s a means to an end and it will end. And some advice that was given to me that I really held very deeply in my heart to this day, when I was at the end of the rope and I thought I can’t do this anymore, I went to talk to a rabbi. And I’m not even religious, but somebody said go talk to this rabbi. She’s had this experience. And I went to tell her my story and she was very, very moving as only two women can be and she said… she finally said, “I can’t tell you what it will look like, but if what you want is to be a mother again, you will be a mother again.” And that was the greatest advice I was given. And I still give that to my friends today who are struggling. Because if in your soul you know this is what you want is to be a mother, you will be a mother. It may not look like how you want it to look like and it may not come out the way you want it to, but you can be a mother and that was the most… that gave me the greatest peace going through the process.

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Dani Klein Modisett

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Dani Klein Modisett is the creator/producer/director of the shows “Afterbirth…stories you won’t read in Parents magazine,” and Not What I Signed Up For. These are live storytelling shows where acclaimed actors and writers perform original, funny stories about how marriage and parenting challenges them in unexpected ways. The NY Post raved about Afterbirth… calling it,"the Vagina Monologues for the stroller set.” After playing to sold out audiences for five years in Los Angeles and NYC and also making stops in Boston and San Francisco, an anthology of stories from Afterbirth was published as a book by St. Martin’s Press. Dani is a contributor to Huffington Post, Parents Magazine, and the LA Times. Before having children, Dani worked as a comic, performing across the country and participating in the HBO Aspen Comedy Festival with a solo show she wrote called “The Move.” She also taught Stand-up comedy at UCLA and now teaches a workshop at I O West called “Writing For Performance.” Afterbirth is in production as a web series for the launch of Disney’s website for Mom’s, “Not What I Signed Up For” is being developed as a pilot for television with Jerry Weintraub’s company. Dani is a graduate of Dartmouth College and lives in Los Angeles with her husband and two sons.

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