Outlining expectations

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Outlining expectations

It is very important that you take the time to outline the expectations you have for your nanny. This is because every nanny comes from a different nanny family, and also, their own family of origin. They have different ideas about how children should be raised, and you have your own ideas of family and what you actually expect. The less you actually quantify that and make a list of things, write them down and think about them, and have a talk with the nanny about what your expectations are; then you'll just be making assumptions. You'll be upset when the nanny makes an error or doesn't do something. All too often, I'll have parents who say to me, "Why doesn't she just get this? I mean, she is a nanny. She's supposed to know this." I have to remind them, Your family is unlike any other family. Every family is so unique and different. For example, if you are okay with your nanny watching TV after all of their duties are done, then you don't need to make that a rule. If it's important that they always find something else to do rather than watch TV. You want to clearly write that down. Also, a nanny and her cell phone. This can become an issue. You want to make sure that she doesn't use it while driving. Also, specify if it's okay to use the cell phone when it's hands-free? Then also mention not to be texting while they are driving, whatever rules are that you have for your family.

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Lindsay Heller, PsyD

Psychologist, The Nanny Doctor

Lindsay, known as The Nanny Doctor, has been working with families and their nannies for more than a decade. In addition to being a licensed clinical psychologist, Lindsay was a well-respected nanny for over 10 years in both the Los Angeles and San Francisco areas. Now, through her nanny consulting services, Lindsay works in conjunction with families and their agencies to provide a unique specialized service to help each family in finding the best possible match for their family. She aids, not only in the interview and hiring process, but also with the important transition of introducing a new person into the household. She stands firmly beside each of her clients throughout their journey and custom tailors a plan of action for each individual family. No nanny issue is too big or small! Her team is excited to be working with her and are happy to offer every family they work with a complimentary hour of her services!


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