Three signs that your son may be depressed

Michael Gurian, MFA Family Counselor & Author, shares advice for parents on what the three main signs are that may indicate your teenage son is depressed
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Three signs that your son may be depressed

If you have a middle adolescent boy, chances are you are saying; Okay. He is who he is. What is the one thing I worry about? I would worry about depression. Depression is going to be when his markers, external markers, grades, athletic performance, sports, social performance. When you get two out of these three that drop fast, maybe all three; he's moving into his room only and wants to have a lock on his door -- which I don't think anyone should be doing -- He wants that. This is a boy who is trying to isolate socially, and he is struggling with something. The first thing we think of is depression. It might be coming from somewhere else. He may be being bullied. He may have broken up with his girlfriend. When these markers fall, the grades, the physical performance, the social performance; when they all fall, I would worry about that. I would get him help as soon as possible. Bring in other people from the family, and get counseling help. If all three fall, he may be getting depressed.

Michael Gurian, MFA Family Counselor & Author, shares advice for parents on what the three main signs are that may indicate your teenage son is depressed


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Michael Gurian, MFA, CMHC

Family Counselor & Author

Michael Gurian is the New York Times bestselling author of 25 books published in 21 languages. He provides counseling services at the Marycliff Center, in Spokane, Washington. The Gurian Institute, which he co-founded, conducts research internationally, launches pilot programs and trains professionals. Michael has been called "the people's philosopher" for his ability to bring together people's ordinary lives and scientific ideas.

 He has pioneered efforts to bring neuro-biology and brain research into homes, schools, corporations, and public policy. A number of his books have sparked national debate, including The Wonder of Girls, The Wonder of Boys, and Boys and Girls Learn Differently!, and The Minds of Boys.

Michael has served as a consultant to families, corporations, therapists, physicians, school districts, community agencies, churches, criminal justice personnel and other professionals, traveling to approximately 20 cities per year to keynote at conferences. His training videos (also available as DVDs) for parents and volunteers are used by Big Brother and Big Sister agencies in the U.S. and Canada.

 As an educator, Michael previously taught at Gonzaga University, Eastern Washington University, and Ankara University.  His speaking engagements include Harvard University, Johns Hopkins University, Stanford University, Macalester College, University of Colorado, University of Missouri-Kansas City, and UCLA. His philosophy reflects the diverse cultures (European, Asian, Middle Eastern and American) in which he has lived, worked and studied.

Michael's work has been featured in various media, including the New York Times, the Washington Post, USA Today, Newsweek, Time, People Magazine, Reader's Digest, the Wall Street Journal, Forbes Magazine, Parenting, Good Housekeeping, Redbook, and on the Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN, PBS and National Public Radio.

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