Most common mistakes made by teenage boys

Rob Kodama, Certified Gurian Trainer & Educator, explains what the biggest mistakes parents make when raising teenage boys are and how to avoid making those mistakes
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Most common mistakes made by teenage boys

I think one of the biggest mistakes parents make with raising their teenage boys is enabling them. At that time in their lives as teenage boys, they are going to make mistakes. We all make mistakes. Learning how to learn from them is what is important. Saving them from those mistakes. I worry about that because they never learn it. They never learn the consequences of those mistakes. If a young man doesn't train correctly before and event and doesn't play, they shouldn't play. If you don't study for your test and I say it's okay to cheat, then they will think its okay to cheat. If they get into a situation where they are not being enabled, I'm not saying don't protect them, but you've got to let them fail. You've got to let them scrape their knees sometimes. That ability to scrape their knees, get back up, can make a world of difference 20 years from now. To save them at 14, over something that might not be really that big of a deal; to me, that will cost you big down the line. If you allow them to scrape their knees and get up. If you judge them for how they act after the mistake, rather than the mistake, I think you are doing them a world of good.

Rob Kodama, Certified Gurian Trainer & Educator, explains what the biggest mistakes parents make when raising teenage boys are and how to avoid making those mistakes


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Rob Kodama

Director of Admissions & Marketing, Crespi Carmelite High School

Mr. Kodama has been a Certified Gurian Trainer since 2007. He is the Director of Admissions, Marketing, and Public Relations at Crespi Carmelite High School. He is also the head soccer coach and the Director of K-sports Soccer Camps. He has been involved in the educational field since 1991.  In his role as the Director of Admissions he has increased enrollment at Crespi Carmelite High School nearly 20% within his first five years. He has taught a revolutionary course called ”Becoming a Man” to seniors at Crespi Carmelite High School for the past eight years. In this innovative class, he challenges his students to look at what it truly means to become a man in our society. He explores what their roles are as sons, brothers, fathers, husbands, and mentors. He has presented this class at the Gurian Institute in Colorado Springs. He has served as the social studies department chair, and taught World Cultural Geography, US History, AP Macroeconomics, Micro Economics, and World History.

As a certified trainer and teacher, Mr. Kodama brings a wide variety of experience working with children, parents, students, and athletes. He has been training parents and schools about how boys and girls learn differently and how to help them succeed in school since 2007. He was recently the Keynote Speaker at Pierce College in Woodland Hills for the Early Childhood Development program. He has presented numerous times at The Gurian Summer Institute in Colorado Springs, and has worked with the following schools: Berkeley School, Crossroads Christian, Serra High School, Encino Presbyterian Children’s Center, St. Mel’s School, Kirk of the Valley School, Laurel Hall, Weekday Preschool, Young Oak Kim Academy, Our Lady of Malibu, Palma High School, and Army Navy Academy.

As a coach, he has worked with both boys and girls as young as four, through college. He has been running soccer camps, clinics, and coaching for over 20 years throughout the Los Angeles area. Many of his players have gone on to play at advanced levels of soccer.

He grew up in the San Fernando Valley. He is the youngest of five siblings, and is married and has a seven year-old son and six year-old daughter.

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