Preparing teenage boys for their role in society

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Preparing teenage boys for their role in society

Preparing teenage boys for their role in society as men. I think that there is a tough place here for these kids. What they see on TV and the internet is totally unrealistic for these kids. What happened 50 years ago for men isn't the same roles we play now. My father never changed diapers. I can't tell you how many diapers I changed. It's very different places. The roles that we are going to play is going to be a very important piece. I think the ability for boys to realize that they are a mentor for somebody. Watching the neighborhood kids, with a nephew or a cousin, will really help identify their role as a mentor. When your son becomes a man and that journey, his ability to become a mentor is his greatest asset. He's had those role models in his life previously. Having those models to be able to identify, did he choose them as a role model or did they choose him to become their follower. It becomes a really important question to pose to your teenage son. When they figure out, "Hey, I'm influencing a lot of people around me." You'll be amazed at the impact that they are going to have on those boys around them. One of the things we did as little boys, we always wanted to be Superman. We always wanted to be the star. Nobody ever dreamt of sitting in the dugout. We all wanted to be the man, that guy that makes the game saving catch. Our lives are no different. We always want to be the man. Allow him that opportunity. It's not that he has to be perfect, but that he is someone else's role model and that he can recognize that. When he can recognize that, I think you will get a different set of standards from him.

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Rob Kodama

Director of Admissions & Marketing, Crespi Carmelite High School

Mr. Kodama has been a Certified Gurian Trainer since 2007. He is the Director of Admissions, Marketing, and Public Relations at Crespi Carmelite High School. He is also the head soccer coach and the Director of K-sports Soccer Camps. He has been involved in the educational field since 1991.  In his role as the Director of Admissions he has increased enrollment at Crespi Carmelite High School nearly 20% within his first five years. He has taught a revolutionary course called ”Becoming a Man” to seniors at Crespi Carmelite High School for the past eight years. In this innovative class, he challenges his students to look at what it truly means to become a man in our society. He explores what their roles are as sons, brothers, fathers, husbands, and mentors. He has presented this class at the Gurian Institute in Colorado Springs. He has served as the social studies department chair, and taught World Cultural Geography, US History, AP Macroeconomics, Micro Economics, and World History.

As a certified trainer and teacher, Mr. Kodama brings a wide variety of experience working with children, parents, students, and athletes. He has been training parents and schools about how boys and girls learn differently and how to help them succeed in school since 2007. He was recently the Keynote Speaker at Pierce College in Woodland Hills for the Early Childhood Development program. He has presented numerous times at The Gurian Summer Institute in Colorado Springs, and has worked with the following schools: Berkeley School, Crossroads Christian, Serra High School, Encino Presbyterian Children’s Center, St. Mel’s School, Kirk of the Valley School, Laurel Hall, Weekday Preschool, Young Oak Kim Academy, Our Lady of Malibu, Palma High School, and Army Navy Academy.

As a coach, he has worked with both boys and girls as young as four, through college. He has been running soccer camps, clinics, and coaching for over 20 years throughout the Los Angeles area. Many of his players have gone on to play at advanced levels of soccer.

He grew up in the San Fernando Valley. He is the youngest of five siblings, and is married and has a seven year-old son and six year-old daughter.

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