The power of empathy and listening

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The power of empathy and listening

Sometimes kids are saying, "Hey, you don't get me. You don't understand me." I know that they are confusing agreement with listening, and because you are not agreeing, you are not listening. A couple of ways to show that you are understanding. Active listen, show them, "This is what I hear you saying." One time, I was sitting with my daughter, and she said, "I don't want to go to the movies with you. I'm old enough." I said, "Okay. Tell me more." "You know, my friends, they are going to be alone, and they are going to see us together. That's going to be embarrassing." I said, "Okay. It sounds like you are going to be embarrassed, me being there with you." She said, "Yes." I said, "Well, let's go to a movie theater that is five miles away. I bet your friends won't be there." She's like, "That's a good idea." So I listened to, what we call, the latent part of the message. There's the manifest, the things that are being said on the top. Then there is the latent part. Trying listening to that and I think your kids will feel listened to.

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Chris Fulton, PhD

Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Christopher Fulton is a licensed clinical psychologist and has been in private practice for over ten years. He received his doctorate in 1994 from the California School of Professional Psychology, Los Angeles. Dr. Fulton has clinical training and experience in a variety of settings, and also has administrative, teaching, supervision, consulting, research and psychological testing experience. Dr. Fulton provides consultation and ongoing therapy for children, adolescents and adults. He conducts group, individual, couples and family therapy and actively works with a variety of childhood disorders, including: adjustment disorder, ADHD, anxiety, depression, oppositional defiant and other emotional-behavioral disorders. Among his most frequent areas of concentration is divorce, for which Dr. Fulton offers therapy for all involved.

Utilizing research-supported methods in treatment, Dr. Fulton's approach to therapy involves a combination of cognitive-behavioral, family systems and interpersonal interventions. In his work with children, Dr. Fulton involves parents and assists them in developing appropriate responses to their children, since he believes that ultimately the parent will make the most significant impact on the child. Dr. Fulton helps parents establish appropriate boundaries, communication and methods of discipline in order to increase positive relationships with their children.

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