The way you prepare your children for the sexual pressures in middle school is twofold. Number one, those conversations have to be 30 second snippets. You can't just sit there and have the five or ten minute talk. That's when they roll their eyes and shut you out within the first 30 seconds. It has to be a successive series of 30 second snippets about information. That information needs to entail, what is the game? How is it played? Especially if you have a girl. You want to tell them how boys play the game. What are they going to do? Are they going to say, what are they going to do, to try and get you to do the things that they want you to do? What I tell the parents, and I tell the kids in my office, is that guys at this age start beginning puberty and they are releasing so much more testosterone. Literally, they are thinking with the wrong head. When a guy sees you, he doesn't see you as much as what he wants off of you. What the girls need to do is hold the bar high for themselves and not give guys what they are looking for right off the bat. If you can string them along a little bit, the guys who are players will jump ship to try to find another girl to get what they want. The legitimate guys will respect their boundaries and follow them along respectfully. That is a more legitimate guy that she can try to have a relationship with. I also think that parents, if they are having this conversation with their kid in middle school, they are too late. By Fifth or Sixth Grade, they are already talking to their friends about what is going on. If you want to be proactive with your kid, you've got to do it early.