Posting pictures about a party not everyone is invited to

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Posting pictures about a party not everyone is invited to

Kids today like to share their lives, they are growing up in a world where they can take pictures really easily. They do take pictures, they post them 24/7; they can get them online and then hundreds and hundreds of people can see these pictures, and then talk about them with everybody else. They're doing it, they're posting, they're going out, they're posting pictures of parties. They are also crafting it - nobody's going to put up a picture where they look really unhappy; very few kids are going to do that. This is exaggerating this thing called "fomo" : fear of missing out. Many parents today talk to me about how do they deal with the fact that (1) if their child is looking at these pictures, that they're feeling really left out; how do they deal with that? I think it's really important to help your child understand that this is not really reality. That when someone is putting pictures of themselves smiling, it doesn't mean that everything in that person's life is perfect. They're crafting the way that they are portraying their life, so make sure that your child understands that this doesn't reflect reality all the time. Then (2) If your child is posting photos constantly about their life, try to make them sensitive to understanding that other people who they normally invite, or who they may not want to know that they were out, and didn't invite them, or may feel bad about it. Because social networking sites and phones have created an exaggerated fear of missing out, it's really important to both talk to your child about what other people post and how it may not reflect reality, and also talk to your child about what they post, and to be sensitive of other people's feelings when they post.

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Yalda T. Uhls, MBA, PhD

Regional Director, Common Sense Media

Yalda T. Uhls, MBA, PhD, is the Regional Director of Common Sense Media, the leading non-profit dedicated to improving the lives of kids and families by providing the trustworthy information, education, and independent voice they need to thrive in a world of media and technology. Yalda's own research with the Children's Digital Media at UCLA was written about in the New York Times, CNN, Time Magazine, The Huffington Post, and more. As an expert on media’s effects on children, Yalda has been featured on the BBC News, KPCC, the LA Times and many other news outlets. Her awards include UCLA's Psychology in Action Award for excellence in communicating psychological research to audiences beyond academia as well as honorable mention for the National Science Foundation's GSRF. Yalda's former career as a Senior VP at MGM, in film production, informs her perspective that media content has great power to socialize children, to inspire and teach as well as to be used inappropriately. In her talks, she brings her deep knowledge of the latest research about how children ages eight to 18 use media, as well as a realistic understanding of how digital natives use media from her experiences with her two children, ages 10 and 13.  Her newest book, Media Moms & Digital Dads: A Fact-Not-Fear Approach to Parenting in the Digital Age will be published in Fall 2015. 

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