What "close and intimate" means online vs. in person

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What "close and intimate" means online vs. in person

Some children really take to this online medium, and some of those kids are socially completely competent, in fact, they've found that - extroverts - there is a correlation between extroversion and number of friends online, so if you have a lot of friends offline, you will probably have a lot of friends online. Other kids are introverts, and they are shy and they are quiet, they may have social anxiety and they may only feel comfortable expressing themselves online. Looking at someone face-to-face may be very challenging, so ultimately you have to know your child. Children who have autism, for example, children who have difficulty actually communicating in that way; they have found it is easier for them to communicate online, because it feels safer; you don't have to look someone in the face, so maybe it's not a bad thing. Maybe it's a way for your child to express themselves socially to get closer to someone, so you feel more comfortable to practice social learning, through the use of this tool. Ultimately the way you know it's a problem, again, is if they have problems offline socially. If they don't have any relations socially, if they are not having face-to-face time with some of those friends, then you may want to check this out and talk to them about how to express themselves more intimately face-to-face with people, but for many kids it's not really a problem.

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Yalda T. Uhls, MBA, PhD

Regional Director, Common Sense Media

Yalda T. Uhls, MBA, PhD, is the Regional Director of Common Sense Media, the leading non-profit dedicated to improving the lives of kids and families by providing the trustworthy information, education, and independent voice they need to thrive in a world of media and technology. Yalda's own research with the Children's Digital Media at UCLA was written about in the New York Times, CNN, Time Magazine, The Huffington Post, and more. As an expert on media’s effects on children, Yalda has been featured on the BBC News, KPCC, the LA Times and many other news outlets. Her awards include UCLA's Psychology in Action Award for excellence in communicating psychological research to audiences beyond academia as well as honorable mention for the National Science Foundation's GSRF. Yalda's former career as a Senior VP at MGM, in film production, informs her perspective that media content has great power to socialize children, to inspire and teach as well as to be used inappropriately. In her talks, she brings her deep knowledge of the latest research about how children ages eight to 18 use media, as well as a realistic understanding of how digital natives use media from her experiences with her two children, ages 10 and 13.  Her newest book, Media Moms & Digital Dads: A Fact-Not-Fear Approach to Parenting in the Digital Age will be published in Fall 2015. 

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