The difference between special time and quality time

David Palmiter, PhD ABPP Psychologist & Author, shares advice for parents on the differences between special time and quality time spent with your children
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The difference between special time and quality time

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One of the most important messages I have for parents and my own self as a parent is the difference between special time and quality time. They are both good things. Quality times something else is capturing my attention like going to baseball game with my son or going to a movie with my daughter but when I do special time all I'm doing is paying attention to what my child is doing. Giving them positive feedback about it and letting them know what they mean to me. So, one is like 70% attention and the other is 100%. I ask parents, imagine what it will be like to have someone that matters to you, watch you for an hour a week and give you feedback that's truthful and proportionate about the good of what you're doing. For many of this would be like a warm fire on a cold tundra. For these kids are extremely powerful and much more powerful than quality time.
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David Palmiter, PhD ABPP Psychologist & Author, shares advice for parents on the differences between special time and quality time spent with your children

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David Palmiter, PhD, ABPP

Psychologist & Author

Dr. David Palmiter is a professor of Psychology and Counseling at Marywood University. He is a practicing and board-certified clinical psychologist, a past president of the Pennsylvania Psychological Association, the author of over three dozen publications, including two books on promoting resilience in youth, a Fellow of the American Psychological Association (true of < 6% of psychologists), the American Academy of Clinical Psychology and the Pennsylvania Psychological Association in youth. He has also given hundreds of workshops on family issues for organizations such as The Navy SEAL Foundation, The Master Therapist Series at the University of Connecticut, The American Psychological Association and the McGraw-Hill Financial Group and completed hundreds of media projects for outlets such as CNN, The New York Times, US News and World Report and the Wall Street Journal. David is also a dad of three (two studying at Cornell University and one still in high school) and husband of 27 years to Dr. Lia Richards-Palmiter. A central aspect of his professional mission is to put air under the wings of parents as they try to raise happy and resilient children and teens.

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