Encouragement versus pressure

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Encouragement versus pressure

The key assumption I think a lot of us don't realize is that all humans assuming there's no brain damage, excel at something. This born out of statistical theory about probabilities. We all have things that you have to travel far and wide to find someone better than us to thing. And one of my jobs as a parent is to try to find out what those things are in my kid. Just like plants grow, their branches around obstacles toward the light, kids grow their behaviors toward their competencies. As long as they are not plugged in to sedentary electronic pleasure and sedated by that or sedated throughout other kinds of unhealthy behaviors. They are going to naturally do those things that draw them towards their competencies. It may take up to the kids age 18 to find one or two. But once they find them, they don't need me to put my 2 hands on their back. They want to run towards them. In certain moment and they may struggle and need my help to do things when they don't feel like it but those are the brief flips, not the longer moments. They mostly love them.

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David Palmiter, PhD, ABPP

Psychologist & Author

Dr. David Palmiter is a professor of Psychology and Counseling at Marywood University. He is a practicing and board-certified clinical psychologist, a past president of the Pennsylvania Psychological Association, the author of over three dozen publications, including two books on promoting resilience in youth, a Fellow of the American Psychological Association (true of < 6% of psychologists), the American Academy of Clinical Psychology and the Pennsylvania Psychological Association in youth. He has also given hundreds of workshops on family issues for organizations such as The Navy SEAL Foundation, The Master Therapist Series at the University of Connecticut, The American Psychological Association and the McGraw-Hill Financial Group and completed hundreds of media projects for outlets such as CNN, The New York Times, US News and World Report and the Wall Street Journal. David is also a dad of three (two studying at Cornell University and one still in high school) and husband of 27 years to Dr. Lia Richards-Palmiter. A central aspect of his professional mission is to put air under the wings of parents as they try to raise happy and resilient children and teens.

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