Twins who compete for attention

Joan Friedman, PhD Psychologist and Twin Expert, shares advice for parents with twins on how what to do when your twins compete for attention
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Twins who compete for attention

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When twins are competing for attention, it's not a sign of parental inadequacy. Twins are born into a situation where they have to compete for love, time, and attention. Parents are given this very important task of attempting to care for two babies at one time. We all know that toddlers are very needy, impulsive creatures with a very short fuse. So, especially during toddler development, these issues of competition will definitely escalate. Moms and dads need to do the best that they can. One way you can help the situation is to possibly get an older person to come and play with the toddlers when you are alone with them in the house. Toddlers love older children and that really may help ameliorate the situation. Remember, toddler will grow out of this and things will get much easier as they get older, more competent and independent.

Joan Friedman, PhD Psychologist and Twin Expert, shares advice for parents with twins on how what to do when your twins compete for attention

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Joan Friedman, PhD

Psychologist & Twin Expert

Dr. Joan A. Friedman is a prominent and well-respected twin expert who shares her passionate views and insights about twins and their emotional needs with twins and their families throughout the world. The fact that she is an identical twin and the mother of five, including fraternal twin sons, makes her ideally suited to this task. Her commitment to twin research and her treatment of twins of all ages demonstrate the breadth and depth of her skills and experience. She conducts ongoing groups for parents of twins and provides consultation on twin related matters such as school placements, developmental discrepancies, and behavioral issues.

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When twins are competing for attention, it's not a sign of parental inadequacy. Twins are born into a situation where they have to compete for love, time, and attention. Parents are given this very important task of attempting to care for two babies at one time. We all know that toddlers are very needy, impulsive creatures with a very short fuse. So, especially during toddler development, these issues of competition will definitely escalate. Moms and dads need to do the best that they can. One way you can help the situation is to possibly get an older person to come and play with the toddlers when you are alone with them in the house. Toddlers love older children and that really may help ameliorate the situation. Remember, toddler will grow out of this and things will get much easier as they get older, more competent and independent.