Golden nugget of parenting advice

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Golden nugget of parenting advice

My golden nugget of parenting advice is first, see your strengths in your children. Don't concentrate so much on the weaknesses, because the weaknesses will change over time. And they will change because your children have strengths. And all children, no matter how much they thrive or struggle in our homes, in our society, or in our schools have strengths. Kids feel better when we recognize their strengths, because it's a positive message to them that they're doing something right. And all children need to know and believe that they're doing something right. That gives them the intrinsic motivation to understand what they don't always do right and what's harder for them and gives them the resilience and the stamina to try harder next time. Praising your children for something they're not good at is the height of hypocrisy. And they're going to see through it every time. And sooner or later they're going to call you on it and know that you're not a reliable witness for you in the things they are good at. So don't praise them for things they're not good at. But encourage them to keep trying and soon, some of those weaknesses will become some of their most compelling strengths over time.

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Now starting her forty-second year, Reveta Bowers is the Head of School at The Center for Early Education, an urban pre-school through 6th grade Los Angeles independent school with 538 students. Devoted to children and education, Ms. Bowers served and has served on a number of boards. She is currently on Board of Overseers of the UCLA Healthcare System, on the founding board of the African American Board Leadership Institute and the board of the FEDCO Charitable Foundation. She just completed serving as Chair Emeritus of the Board of Directors of the California Community Foundation. A past president and former secretary of The Educational Records Bureau Board, Reveta Bowers was also a member of the Advisory Board to the Klingenstein Center at Teacher’s College for ten years. She served as an outside director on the Board of Directors of the Walt Disney Company for ten years and is a former member of the Harvard-Westlake, Brentwood and Windward School boards. Reveta was on the Council for Spiritual and Ethical Education board, and the boards of the National Association of Principals of Schools for Girls and the Country Day Headmaster’s Association. She served as a trustee and treasurer of the NAIS Board, and as past president of the California Association of Independent Schools. For the past thirteen years she has also been on the faculty of the NAIS Institute for New Heads where she serves as the Lead Faculty member. One of her proudest career moments was receiving the NAIS Diversity Leadership Award in 2009. She has had a long and rewarding career in independent schools and finds her work with organizations supporting education, students, parents, community and Board work to be continually inspiring.

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