How to get the behavior you want from your kids without discipline

Laura Markham, PhD Psychologist & Parenting Author, shares advice for parents on how to get the behavior you want from your kids without having to use discipline
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How to get the behavior you want from your kids without discipline

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When our child is doing something we don't want, most of us search for a consequence, some sort of penalty to force the child to do things the way we want. Actually, if we back up and we start by staying connected, emotion coaching so a child can regulate their emotions in there for their behavior. Our child would want to behave because they are connected and they will have the emotional tools to behave and you won't need consequences because you will see very little misbehavior. And when you do see misbehavior, you can help your child with whatever emotions drove it and then sit down and help your child understand how to repair it. "I think your brother is pretty upset, when you knocked down his tower. Wonder what we could do to help him feel better"? All of us inadvertently damage relationships from time to time, very important for the children to know how to do that repair work. It work so much better than a consequence, to get the child to do what you want, they just resent that. But this is repair work you are empowering your child, to make something better to know we all make mistakes, for we can always make it better.

Laura Markham, PhD Psychologist & Parenting Author, shares advice for parents on how to get the behavior you want from your kids without having to use discipline

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Laura Markham, PhD

Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Laura Markham is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. She earned her PhD in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and has worked as a parenting coach with countless parents across the English-speaking world, both in person and via phone. You can find Dr. Laura online at AhaParenting.com, the website of Aha! Moments for parents of kids from birth through the teen years, where you can sign up for her free daily inspiration email.  Dr. Laura lives in New York with her husband and her kids, who are now 17 and 21.

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