Why spanking is not effective

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Why spanking is not effective

Spanking is really a form of traditional parenting. It's a response to a behavior that we don't like. Unfortunately, it's not really a great, effective tool for dealing with discipline. There are a number of reasons. One is that it is really disrespectful to the child. One of the things parents are always talking about is, "How do I foster respect in my child? How do I get my child to respect me?" You don't get a child to respect you by disrespecting them. That's the first issue with spanking. The second is it really doesn't offer children any alternative for expressing themselves because we are, essentially, spanking out a behavior that we don't like. But that behavior that we don't like is an expression of a feeling. What we need to do is give children an alternative for dealing with those feelings rather than acting out the way they did that caused us to want to spank them in the first place.

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Gila Brown, MA, MFT

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist/ Parenting Expert

A middle school teacher turned child development specialist, Gila Brown, MA, MA, is the creator of Harmony Rules: How to Parent Confidently and Raise Super Kids.  With over 15 years of experience working with kids of all ages, Gila has helped countless parents transform life at home, enjoying a greater sense of peace and more rewarding relationships with their kids. Known for her fluency in ‘kid-speak’, Gila helps parents who are facing regular power struggles by giving them tools and strategies to respond with positive discipline and effective communication.

After receiving her BA from USC, Gila began her career in museum education and family programming.  She went on to receive her MA in human development from Pacific Oaks College, along with a teaching credential. After years of classroom teaching, Gila shifted gears deciding that she could best help kids by helping their parents. As a child development specialist, Gila earned an MA in clinical psychology from Antioch University. Her expertise and background in both education and psychology give her a unique perspective on child behavior and the family system.

Gila is in private practice in Beverly Hills where she works with individual adults and parents.  She also specializes in working with families coping with divorce. Gila teaches parenting workshops through numerous schools and parenting organizations.

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