How to motivate your child when they are struggling

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How to motivate your child when they are struggling

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Motivating your kids is a challenge. When they are really young, it is not as difficult as when you reach preteen and teen years. You, as a parent, you and your partner have to properly and realistically evaluate the strengths and weaknesses of your child, honestly evaluate those. And you have got to look at the areas where they shine and you have to pat them on the back when they deserve a pat on the back for where they shine. But it is their areas of weakness which are their real challenges. And when they are in school, in taking a science class, and they are not really great in science. If they had an F and it was improved to a D, as hard as it may be as a mom and dad, you have to acknowledge their improvement in that subject. It is an area of weakness. And it is not yours. It is theirs. Be fair and honest in your evaluation of what they do and what their performance is, and it will be much easier to motivate them because they will know that you don´t have unrealistic expectations of them, that you reasonably and rationally see what challenges they are facing and are being fair in dealing with them. All they want is fairness.

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Timothy J. Wheeler, the managing partner of the law firm Greene, Broillet & Wheeler LLP.  He has extensive trial experience in a variety of areas including product liability, general negligence and auto product liability. Tim was named the Lawyer of the Year in Product Liability by Best Lawyers in America for 2013. He was a three-time finalist for the prestigious Trial Lawyer of the Year Award, presented by the Consumer Attorneys Association of Los Angeles (CAALA), for his outstanding trial record and involvement and commitment to consumer rights. Tim is a graduate of Loyola Law School, Los Angeles, CA (J.D., 1978), Tim attended Santa Clara University (BS, cum laude, Political Science, 1975), and was a recipient of the Jesuit Scholarship. While at Loyola High School, Tim's excellence in all areas of student life was recognized by the faculty, which bestowed upon him The Loyola Award. Tim and his wife Nancy reside in Manhattan Beach,  have been married for 37 years and have four adult children, Matt, Tim, Danny, and Mary and two grandchildren, Lily and Grace. 

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