Tips for building up a child's self-esteem

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Tips for building up a child's self-esteem

Instilling in your child self-esteem, is tricky business. My wife and I prefer the nod and the wink approach, over the overboard parent approach. Just as a simple example, when your child scores a goal at the soccer game, there are some parents that go through the roof. You don't hear the end of it, and they keep patting their kid on the back and applauding their kid. I think giving your child true self-esteem, is more of a nod and a wink. "Hey, great job. We're really proud of you," and move on. Let them know it was important and they did a good job, but don't go overboard, because the authenticity of what you are saying to them will lose it's effectiveness. They know you are going overboard there after a while, maybe not the first time; but by the second or the third time they do. Just give them a nod and a wink, a good pat on the back. This empowers your child. They feel good. You didn't make a big spectacle out of it. They appreciated it. That starts to build into them appropriate self-esteem that they can carry into their teenage years, and it can carry into adulthood.

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Timothy J. Wheeler, the managing partner of the law firm Greene, Broillet & Wheeler LLP.  He has extensive trial experience in a variety of areas including product liability, general negligence and auto product liability. Tim was named the Lawyer of the Year in Product Liability by Best Lawyers in America for 2013. He was a three-time finalist for the prestigious Trial Lawyer of the Year Award, presented by the Consumer Attorneys Association of Los Angeles (CAALA), for his outstanding trial record and involvement and commitment to consumer rights. Tim is a graduate of Loyola Law School, Los Angeles, CA (J.D., 1978), Tim attended Santa Clara University (BS, cum laude, Political Science, 1975), and was a recipient of the Jesuit Scholarship. While at Loyola High School, Tim's excellence in all areas of student life was recognized by the faculty, which bestowed upon him The Loyola Award. Tim and his wife Nancy reside in Manhattan Beach,  have been married for 37 years and have four adult children, Matt, Tim, Danny, and Mary and two grandchildren, Lily and Grace. 

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