How to deal with bad influences

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How to deal with bad influences

Let's face it. At one time or another, our kids are going to hang out with a kid or a group of kids that we think are bad influence. And this is one of those times where you have to pray that the foundation you've given your child will be enough for them to get through this time period because you're not going to be able to prevent them from hanging out with those kids. It's going to be at school. It's going to be at a playground. It's going to be at sporting events. They're going to hang out with who they choose to hang out with. We found in our experience that if you engage your kids and ask them, "who are your friends, what are their interests, what are they doing, when you're with so and so, what do you guys do? " Just don't punish. Don't accuse. Ask. And they'll reveal a little. They can reveal a lot but you need to continue to instill in them the values that you've tried to raise them with. We found that eventually even though our kids were hanging around with the bad group, if they were lighting up cherry bombs or they were smoking marijuana or they were doing whatever, our kids made the right choice eventually. That again goes back to the beginning. It's the foundation you lay.

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Timothy J. Wheeler, the managing partner of the law firm Greene, Broillet & Wheeler LLP.  He has extensive trial experience in a variety of areas including product liability, general negligence and auto product liability. Tim was named the Lawyer of the Year in Product Liability by Best Lawyers in America for 2013. He was a three-time finalist for the prestigious Trial Lawyer of the Year Award, presented by the Consumer Attorneys Association of Los Angeles (CAALA), for his outstanding trial record and involvement and commitment to consumer rights. Tim is a graduate of Loyola Law School, Los Angeles, CA (J.D., 1978), Tim attended Santa Clara University (BS, cum laude, Political Science, 1975), and was a recipient of the Jesuit Scholarship. While at Loyola High School, Tim's excellence in all areas of student life was recognized by the faculty, which bestowed upon him The Loyola Award. Tim and his wife Nancy reside in Manhattan Beach,  have been married for 37 years and have four adult children, Matt, Tim, Danny, and Mary and two grandchildren, Lily and Grace. 

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