What teen boys need to know about teen girls

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What teen boys need to know about teen girls

It's really important for parents to talk to their teen boys about the emotional experience of dating, mating and relating for girls because girls have a very different experience than boys do. And also, it's more common for parents to only talk to boys about sex and plumbing and STDs and condoms. But really, young girls are not thinking about that, all right? So women self-identify by the way they bond, through their relationships. If you ask a girl who she is, she is not going to tell you her grades, her major, her job is she's older. She's going to tell you that she's a daughter, she's a sister, she's a mother, she's a wife, she's a girlfriend. This is just how women self-identify. Our relationships are very important to us. So because when all the hormones are charging in teenage life, some guys, but not all, most guys actually want to have a girlfriend, surveys have shown, and want to have friendship before they have sex. But the few of them are thinking, "I just want to ride this new machine" with all the hormones going. But girls are having a very different experience because girls often bond through physical touch. Their bodies excrete oxytocin, the female bonding hormone. The same one that comes out when they're breastfeeding. So it's really important when guys start to say "It shouldn't be too crazy. I only talked to her a couple of times, and now she's calling me every day day or she's texting me all the time." Because girls have feelings and emotion and they get into a bonding experience. It's very important that teenage boys understand that it's very difficult for a girl to separate sex and commitment. For them it all gets bundled into one.

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Dr. Wendy Walsh was nominated for an Emmy Award for her work as co-host on The Dr. Phil spinoff, The Doctors TV show. She also hosts Investigation Discovery Network’s “Happily NEVER After,” as well as being part of Dr. Drew’s Behavior Bureau on HLN Network. On CNN and 9 Network, Australia, she breaks down the psychology of sex, love, gender roles, divorce, parenting and other human behaviors. Dr. Wendy is an Adjunct Professor of Psychology at California State University, Channel Islands. She holds a B.A. in Journalism, a Masters degree in Psychology, and a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology, and is the author of three books and numerous publications, including The 30-Day Love Detox. She appears regularly on The Today Show, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, The Steve Harvey Show, The O’Reilly Factor, Inside Edition, The Katie Couric Show, Jane Velez-Mitchell, and The View.

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