When you don't approve of the person your teen is dating

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When you don't approve of the person your teen is dating

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I think one of the most challenging thing that my wife and I faced in raising our kids is when, one of our kids, was dating someone that we didn't approve of. It creates a great deal of angst for a mother and a father. You worry about the choices that your son or daughter are going to make. When they choose someone you don't approve of, it's very trying. One of the things we tried to do was to engage the young man or woman to talk to them, to get to know them. Often your son or daughter will be a roadblock to that occurring because they may sense you don't approve of the person. You really have to step into their relationship, without being intrusive, and do your best to try and engage the young man or woman. You need to engage your child. Ask your daughter, "Do you love this guy?" "Oh, I love him." "Really what is it about him you love? Explain it to me." Those conversations, as difficult as they are, will expose what the relationship is really all about. Hopefully, you'll be able to mirror back to your son or your daughter what it is that is failing in that relationship or what might be missing. Don't believe for a second you can stop that relationship from going forward. It will go forward. Be patient with the process. Give it time. You'll be able to open your son or daughter's eyes eventually.
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Timothy J. Wheeler, the managing partner of the law firm Greene, Broillet & Wheeler LLP.  He has extensive trial experience in a variety of areas including product liability, general negligence and auto product liability. Tim was named the Lawyer of the Year in Product Liability by Best Lawyers in America for 2013. He was a three-time finalist for the prestigious Trial Lawyer of the Year Award, presented by the Consumer Attorneys Association of Los Angeles (CAALA), for his outstanding trial record and involvement and commitment to consumer rights. Tim is a graduate of Loyola Law School, Los Angeles, CA (J.D., 1978), Tim attended Santa Clara University (BS, cum laude, Political Science, 1975), and was a recipient of the Jesuit Scholarship. While at Loyola High School, Tim's excellence in all areas of student life was recognized by the faculty, which bestowed upon him The Loyola Award. Tim and his wife Nancy reside in Manhattan Beach,  have been married for 37 years and have four adult children, Matt, Tim, Danny, and Mary and two grandchildren, Lily and Grace. 

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