Tips for cutting back on yelling at your kids

Rona Renner, RN and Parent Educator, shares advice for parents on how to cut back on yelling at their children. A major reason parents want to yell less is because they've hated the person they've become and that their child looks afraid of them.
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Tips for cutting back on yelling at your kids

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A lot of parents come to me and ask, "How can I yell less," and I ask them first why do they want to yell less. And they say it's because they don't like the person they've become, that their child looks afraid of them, and that they hear themselves turning into their own mother when they thought they would be a calm parent. So, understand why you're yelling, when you yell, and what you can do instead. Look and see what triggers you. Is it when your child runs off and doesn't listen to you? Is it at 4 o'clock every day when you're hungry and tired? Learn your own triggers and then count to three. It really helps if you take a deep breath, count to three, and then think, "What can I do instead of yelling at my child?" It takes a certain kind of mindfulness to pay attention to your state and think about whether you're getting what you need as a parent. Sometimes parents yell when they're mad at their partner for not coming home on time or if they're frustrated with their job. So, you will yell less when you decide to, and chances are you will still yell sometimes when things get too much.

Rona Renner, RN and Parent Educator, shares advice for parents on how to cut back on yelling at their children. A major reason parents want to yell less is because they've hated the person they've become and that their child looks afraid of them.

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Rona Renner, RN

Parent Educator

Rona Renner has been a Registered Nurse for 46 years with a wide range of experience in health care. In the last 20 years she has focused her attention on pediatrics, parent education and advocacy, ADHD and learning differences. In 1992, she was trained by Kaiser Permanente Medical Center as a temperament counselor to help parents understand their child's behavior, and she co-wrote the temperament based parenting class manual. In 2002, she founded Childhood Matters, a non-profit organization producing radio shows in English and Spanish. "Nurse Rona" hosted a weekly call-in radio show for over nine years, and has appeared on many television shows, including CNN and 20/20. Rona is the author of Is That Me Yelling, a book aimed to help parents learn how to effectively communicate with their kids by focusing on their child's unique temperament, and their ownShe loves working with parents one-on-one, in groups, or in large workshops. Rona is happily married, has four adult children, and two grandsons.

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