Approaching parents of a bully

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Approaching parents of a bully

A big question from parents of children who are victims is: Should I talk to the child's parents who is bullying my kid? And I'm gonna tell you be cautious for a number of reasons. Often number one, a bully's parents deny it. Number two is you could have a switch, which means the child bully's parents will now blame your child as being the problem. And number three, remember, that a bully very often also has parents who are bullies themselves. So, what are you gonna do instead? Don't allow the kid to get away with it. What you do is get help, you may need a mediator, you may need to do a few other things instead. First, go to the school and get the help from a counselor or a psychologist, somebody who knows your child and is watching the situation. Maybe that person can be on board with you so you can meet together. Number two, keep records. Keep a chart of how often this is happening and when it's happening because almost always bullying is repeated, and you may need evidence. Number three, if there is ever a point where your child's safety is in jeopardy, go as far up as fast as you can up the ladder. It could be the board, it could be the superintendent, or it could be the police. In cases, we now know that bullying can be lethal. Get help for your child and do not deviate. Be vigilant until your child gets the safety he or she deserves.

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Michele Borba, EdD

Educational Psychologist

Michele Borba, EdD is a Today Show contributor and recipient of the National Educator Award. She is recognized for her practical, solution-based parenting strategies and is an expert of bullying. Michele is the author of 22 books including Building Moral Intelligence and No More Misbehavin’. She appears as an expert on shows such as Dr. Phil, The View, and CNN and is an advisory board member for Parentsmagazine. 

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