What to do when your daughter is dating a loser

Michael J. Bradley, EdD Psychologist & Author, shares advice for parents on the best steps to take when your teenage daughter is dating someone you don't approve
What to Do When Your Daughter Is Dating A Loser
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What to do when your daughter is dating a loser

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If your child, usually your daughter is dating a jerk. What do you do? Step 1: Calm down. This is a time to remember your mission as a parent. Which is to teach you daughter to control herself. Not to control her behaviour. That means, in this instance, do not jump in a do what feels natural, which is to punch the jerk in the face and throw him out. You will just turn the big loser into a Romeo. This will become the most incredible male on the face of the planet to your daughter. Because, it becomes an issue of power and control. Do not do that. What should you do? Bring him into the light of day. Invite him to Sunday dinner. Have all of the successful brothers-in-laws and older sons and males who are decent with women, who honor women. who are doing progressive, positive things. And have him sitting next to these people and let her watch. Do not go after him. Don't be sarcastic. Don't attack him. You're so nice to this guy. But she sits and starts to compare and contrast between one male and another male. Remember you are playing this game, not for this relationship to end, it will. These things end very quickly if you leave them alone. If you don't jump in and control it. You are playing this game for who she eventually picks as a life mate. The stakes are very high so let her work it through. If its truly abusive and you worry about her safety, get to a shrink quickly and let them take on that task. But, remember this is another one of those situations where the axiom holds well. " As much as possible, do nothing"
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Michael J. Bradley, EdD Psychologist & Author, shares advice for parents on the best steps to take when your teenage daughter is dating someone you don't approve

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Michael J. Bradley, EdD

Psychologist, Author & Speaker

Michael J. Bradley, EdD, award-winning author, has counseled adolescents and their parents for over 30 years and currently has a private practice in suburban Philadelphia. As a recognized specialist in adolescent behavior and parenting, Dr. Bradley is in demand as a speaker and facilitator for mental health professionals, educators, and parenting groups. He has appeared on over 400 radio and television shows, including CNN, The Today Show and Good Morning, America, and has been interviewed by numerous magazines and newspapers such as USA Today, The Philadelphia Inquirer, and Parents Magazine. His website forum is a great source of advice and encouragement to parents.

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