Making divorce less painful for children

Shamsah Amersi, MD Obstetrician & Gynecologist, shares advice for parents on how to best help your child through the pain of his or her parents getting a divorce
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Making divorce less painful for children

The most important thing to make the divorce less painful for your child is not to fight. I cannot emphasize the importance of this. Don't make your child feel bad if he's not with you. Never tell your child that you miss them so they feel guilty that they're not with you. Instead, use terms like, I love you all the time. Support the time that they have with the other parent. Be excited for them, instead of feeling sad. Protecting your own anxiety, and you're sense of lost when they leave your home. Don't be Disneyland to Mom or Dad. Give them consistency. Discipline them. Say no to them. They need to structure. They need a boundaries, regardless of how much time they spend with you. And most importantly, help your child to view a divorce as a positive experience and the sense that they have loving parents who are there for them, and two very happy parents to support them in every sadness.

Shamsah Amersi, MD Obstetrician & Gynecologist, shares advice for parents on how to best help your child through the pain of his or her parents getting a divorce


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Shamsah Amersi, MD

Obstetrician & Gynecologist

Shamsah Amersi, MD is a preeminent Board Certified physician in Obstetrics and Gynecology. She received her undergraduate degree in psychobiology from UCLA, where she graduated summa cum laude, with Phi Beta Kappa membership. At the prestigious, UC San Francisco medical school, Dr. Amersi graduated with top honors, and was recognized as a distinguished member of alpha omega alpha, an honor society for the top 5% of all medical doctors.

Dr. Amersi has received numerous professional and academic awards, including the University of California Distinguished Scholar Award for four consecutive years, an endowed merit scholarship, and the UCLA Alumni Association Achievement Award for four consecutive years. Through her private practice in Santa Monica, CA, Dr. Amersi is the personal physician to several Hollywood A-list celebrities. Dr. Amersi has been in private practice as an obstetrician/gynecologist for over ten years. She specializes in natural child birth, offers VBACs to her patients, and focuses on natural conservative treatment options, minimally invasive surgery, and bioidentical hormone replacement. Her favorite part of her job is delivering babies and sharing this intimate journey with her patients. She provides comprehensive compassionate care for all phases of a woman's life from adolescence through menopause.  Her special interest in female sexuality, libido and the effects of childbirth on pelvic prolapse has led to Dr. Amersi's renowned expertise in these fields. She performs both surgical and nonsurgical treatments for pelvic prolapse and vaginal relaxation.


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