How do I get my children to do something that they don't want to do? I don't, typically. Unless its a situation where I absolutely have to, I do not coerce. I do not threaten. I don't bribe. I believe in natural consequences for things. Let's say, somebody doesn't want to eat their broccoli. "Eat your broccoli." "I don't want it." "Okay. Don't eat it. That's your choice. I'm not making another dinner. If you choose not to eat your broccoli, you're going to be hungry later." It's a natural consequence for what happens if you choose not to eat your broccoli. If we have to go to the dentist and get our teeth cleaned and someone doesn't want to get their teeth cleaned; I have to explain, "We are going into this situation and we're coming out with your teeth cleaned." It's your problem if you are going in with this attitude of resistance. I don't want to do it. This is going to be horrible or you go into it with this attitude of; I don't really want to do this. I'm going to do the best I can, and when I come out of it, I'm going to feel good about it. I don't ever try to physically control my children, and there is only so long that the illusion is even there. They control themselves, and I control myself.