Yes, you read that right. I have spent 18 years ignoring my kids.
• I ignored my kid when he was picking his nose at the Kindergarten graduation while standing right next to the podium
• I ignored the piles of pizza boxes, dirty napkins and soda cups littering the floor after the 10-kid sleepover
• I ignored the $2000.00 on iTunes charged to my Visa card (well, I didn’t actually ignore that one but…)
• I ignored the rolled eyes, stuck out tongues and gagging sounds when I served vegetables at the dinner table
• I ignored the undone chores, the tantrums and the threats of bodily harm bantered between siblings
The best thing I have ever done has been to ignore my kids. When I think about the days I have spent busily ignoring my children’s behavior, I feel proud. Proud, you ask!? Seriously!?
I’ve read all of the parenting books – I mean ALL of them – I have crazy advanced degrees in child development, psychology and education. But the one thing I know that I have never read or been taught is the #1 thing I tell parents that I most strongly believe –
I believe that parents should ignore most of the stuff their kids do, but that they should pay attention to the quality of their character 100% of the time.
Character is infinitely more important than nasal habits, trashed basements, always balanced diets and perfect behavior. Character is the foundation of your family – and your child’s character is the foundation of their future family! Your actions today are quite literally changing tomorrow. That’s not something to ignore!
I would love to know what you believe about parenting and about your family! Share your thoughts with me below – I read all of your comments and I want us to share our wisdom!