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Wife First, Mother Next

Sexy lingerie keeps my children happy. That's right, when I feel sexy and my husband reacts with affectionate gestures of hugs and kisses it makes my kids feel secure and safe.

The most important component of a successful family is the love between parents. When children see daily respect and love between their parents they are more secure and resilient.

The problem with most of us is that we put our kids first. I lived the first decade of my marriage catering to my children and honestly forgetting to take care of my husband. Meals were centered around what the kids wanted, not my husband. Vacations were planned around the kids' interested, not ours as a family.

After years of trial and error, I realized that sacrificing our happiness for the sake of our children is just wrong! If we are happy as moms, our children will be happy. If we are constantly catering to their every whim then we start to resent motherhood.

All you need to do is start with a visit to Victoria Secrets or your favorite lingerie store and treat yourself to something sexy and exotic. Your husband will see that you have made an effort and he will shower you with affection.

Yes, it's that simple. Buy the lingerie, ask your husband what he wants for dinner and you will see a happier you.

Shirin Yadegar is CEO and creator of She lives in Los Angeles with her husband and four daughters.

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Shirin Yadegar is happily married and a mother of four beautiful girls. She is the founder and CEO of Los Angeles Mom Magazine which empowers moms to feel self-confident about the decisions they make for their families. Influential doctors, educators and psychologists write columns about difficult issues moms face on a daily basis.